“I know lots of tips and tricks of communication, but when it comes to real practice, I fail miserably.”
“I’ve watched thousands of videos and bought so many courses, but it’s still not helping me speak properly.”
My members and clients say this often and I feel you.
If this resonates with you, welcome to this little corner of my world.
I write about mindset and communication — not to teach you how to sound impressive, but to help you build a confident version of yourself to become the CEO of your own life.
One who speaks from clarity, not fear.
One who doesn’t wait to feel “ready” to express themselves.
Because in the end, everything really does come down to how you think and how you speak.
Let’s design our own lives by changing our mindset and how we speak today.
The Real Problem (That No One Talks About)
It’s no wonder communication feels trickier and harder than it should.
People spend thousands of dollars just to be able to speak better, sound better because we all know what good communication can bring into our personal and professional lives: better opportunities, stronger relationships, leadership presence, confidence in rooms that matter.
But even with the money you’ve spent, even with the hours you’ve devoted to watching videos and enrolling in courses — why don’t you feel the difference?
Why can’t you speak confidently in front of people and become that confident version of yourself?
What’s wrong here?
Here’s the uncomfortable truth:
It’s not that the tips and tricks don’t work.
You’re just using them in the wrong order.
Before using tips and tricks, you need to first work on your mindset, then take consistent little steps with self-awareness — not how the internet tells you to do it. Everyone has a different learning curve, and you need to embrace your own journey.
Communication doesn’t start with what you say.
It starts with who you believe you are when you speak.
And most people never address that part.
Sounds vague? Let me walk you through this.
Why Courses and Videos Don’t Actually Help
Courses and videos look amazing at first — full of ideas, frameworks, and confidence-boosting promises. They give you hope. Structure. A feeling of “I’m finally doing something.”
You’ve probably already spent hours watching them, thinking they would transform you.
But in reality, you’re just overloading your brain with information and nothing much else.
How many times have you watched a video, felt motivated, took notes… and then never applied it consistently?
Maybe those notes are now lying somewhere on your shelf, gathering dust.
The more you consume without action, the more your brain gets confused about where to start and how to start. At some point, it becomes overwhelming.
The problem isn’t lack of information. It’s information overload without integration.
The Dunning-Kruger Trap
Many of you might have heard about the Dunning-Kruger effect.
Before joining a course or watching videos, you might have had more confidence. But the more knowledge you gain, the less confident you feel because you suddenly realize how much you don’t know.
This isn’t the problem though.
The problem begins when that awareness turns into self-doubt:
- “I’m not born for this.”
- “I’m not good at communication.”
Instead of saying “I’m learning, this takes time,” you let your identity take a hit.
Most people quit right here.
Not because they’re incapable but because their confidence starts collapsing.
And this is where courses and videos fail.
The Shortcut Culture Problem
Most tips and tricks shared on the internet sell shortcuts:
- “Speak confidently in 7 days.”
- “Master communication in one month.”
But in reality, communication isn’t a one-time thing.
You learn it throughout your life.
Sounds boring, right? It shouldn’t be.
Communication is about embracing your inner confidence, letting your words flow, letting your gestures speak, and truly connecting with others.
It doesn’t just mean fluency.
It means expressing yourself and making people feel safe, seen, and understood.
It’s not about impressing. It’s about connecting.
Tips and tricks might help you become a good speaker but not a good communicator.
And yes, there’s a difference.
So, What Actually Helps Then?
1. Build Self-Awareness (This Is Non-Negotiable)
Start by asking the right questions not scrolling for answers.
In The Book ‘The 5 Types of Wealth‘, the author says, “You already have all the answers within you. You just need to ask the right questions.”
This applies here too.
Take a moment to reflect or journal:
- What type of communicator do I think I am? Where does that belief come from?
- What strengths do I already have?
- Where do I actually need to work on?
- What type of communicator do I want to become?
- Do my actions align with my goals and vision?
- What fears stop me from expressing myself confidently?
- What is the next small step I can take?
Random content gives you information.
Self-awareness gives you direction.
Knowledge alone won’t help.
Consistent action will and self-awareness is the first step.
And again, reading this blog won’t help.
Pause. Grab a pen and paper. Start writing.
Or bookmark this page and come back intentionally.
2. Start With Your Mindset
Once you’re aware of your current state, start working on your mindset.
This means redefining how you see yourself internally — breaking limiting beliefs and refusing to let fear dictate how you show up.
Mindset isn’t hype.
If you keep telling yourself “I’m bad at communication,” your brain will keep finding evidence to prove that true.
Start with gentle, intentional self-talk.
Make it a daily ritual.
Positive affirmations can help rewire your subconscious mind and build a strong foundation and that’s where real confidence begins.
Read more: https://whisperbyanu.com/how-positive-self-talk-transforms-the-way-you-speak-to-others/
3. Start With Little Mindful Steps (Not More Content)
This doesn’t mean watching more videos.
It means starting with your own voice.
Record yourself on your phone. Listen to how you sound.
You’ll want to avoid this and that’s exactly why it matters.
You need to be comfortable with your own voice if you want to be a confident communicator.
Yes, it will feel uncomfortable. You might feel like you’re bad at it. But slowly, you’ll start noticing improvement.
Then record videos. Observe your body language, eye movement, gestures.
It gets scary. You’ll want to quit.
But don’t.
I’ve been there. And I promise, you’ll start liking yourself more through this process.
Practice in front of the mirror. Do power poses. Speak as if you are already confident.
Each day, repeat:
- “I can connect with people.”
- “My voice deserves space.”
Your brain learns through repetition.
4. Practice in the Real World (This Changed Everything for Me)
As a non-native speaker, I couldn’t practice English in real conversations every day at first.
I started with Duolingo. Then I joined clubs, online internships, and international events.
When I began, I didn’t even know how to introduce myself properly in English (though I’m confident in my own language.)
I listened more. Observed people. Took small initiatives.
Participating in remote international events was the very first step — and I’m glad I took it.
Those real-world experiences gave me confidence that videos never could.
So practice in the real world.
- Join clubs.
- Attend events.
- Take one-on-one sessions if you can.
- Make mistakes. Speak anyway.
That’s where growth lives.
5. Track and Reflect (Don’t Skip This)
You might be practicing and staying consistent but growth without reflection feels invisible.
Create a simple tracking system.
Write down feedback from your coach, peers, or even your own observations.
This will show you how far you’ve come and when you feel like giving up, those small wins will remind you why you started.
Celebrate progress. Share your journey.
Someone out there needs to see it.
6. Watch Videos and Enroll in Courses — Intentionally
Now — not before — is the time to use courses and videos.
By now, you’ll know exactly what you need.
Voice modulation? Watch that video.
Vocabulary? Work on that specifically.
Don’t consume everything.
Consume with purpose, not anxiety.
And always reflect and apply.
Pro-Tip: Start Now
Start slow.
Start small.
But start now.
No action is too small.
Don’t just learn how to speak words.
Learn awareness.
Learn empathy.
Learn connection.
Because how you see yourself inside shapes how you show up outside.
And that shapes your life.
If you want to design your own life, think big, go slow, and take control.
I teach you how to become the CEO of your own life.
So, stay tuned.
And share this with someone who needs to see it today. 
Greatly put Anu
There are thousands of vidoes i have watched and gonestly dont even know what i listened it just volatile words until you put into action and i found it hard way, what you are helping us through is highlighting core mistakes we make on our pathways to be better, its really frustrating to know what you are trying and yet its not working, what we really need is to before climbing the stairs just take a glance and see where the ladder to adjoined to and where does it takes me, which further higlights importance of asking question which we seldom do, because its hard.
This blog felt like my self reflection